Thursday, September 13, 2012

Rosh Hashanah Rituals



Celebrating the New Year As A Family
By Gabrielle Kaplan-Mayer,
Program Director, Family Engagement, Center City
L’shana Tovah—Happy New Year! On Sunday at sundown, Jewish people all over the world will take a break from their daily schedule to honor the creation of the world, the opportunity to make changes in our behavior and to begin the year with a fresh start and to simply be grateful for the blessings that are abundant in our lives. For many, the holiday is a time to gather with family and friends for a festive meal and to spend time in synagogue gathered in community.
For families with young children, long days in synagogue are not always easy or optimal. There are many ways to celebrate and honor the spirit of holiday that may work well for your family. I am going to share some of the favorite Rosh Hashanah traditions that I’ve enjoyed with my children over the years and I hope that you’ll add some of your own in the comments section below!
·         Baking Challah: In my home growing up, my parents were not bakers and making cookies meant slicing up a tube of Pillsbury dough. But I still remember the year that my mom decided we should make our own round challah for Rosh Hashanah—a symbol of the seasons and cycle of life. We had so much fun kneading the dough that round challah-making became and annual tradition. Here is a great challah recipe. And if you don’t have time to bake your own challah this year, be sure to join one of our jkidphilly playdates and pick up a round challah from us!

·      Apples, apples everywhere: Food helps to explain the meaning of our holidays to young children (and adults, too!). The sweetness and smell of apples and honey reminds us to have a sweet new year. There are so many great pick-your-own farms in the Greater Philadelphia area—why not take your family on an apple-picking adventure and slice up what you pick for Rosh Hashanah?
·         Books and Music: Hopefully your family is signed up for PJ Library (if not, just click here) and you have some wonderful High Holiday books to read with your children like Sammy Spider's First Rosh Hashana and It's Shofar Time. You can also listen and sing along to holiday songs with your children; click here for a link to some free songs that you can download.
·         Tashlich: On the second day of Rosh Hashanah, it is traditional to go to a body of water and toss in breadcrumbs, representing the process of tossing away old behaviors that are no longer serving us. This multi-sensory ritual is a wonderful one to experience with children. Pack some crumbs, head to a little creek near you (my family loves to go to Valley Green every year), and talk about the behaviors that each of you will try to say good-bye to in the New Year. How powerful it is for children to know that their parents make mistakes and that our tradition provides a way for us to say that we’re sorry and try better next time.
·         Attending children’s services: The High Holidays are a special time to experience Jewish worship together--for many children listening to the call of the shofar is a moment that they anticipate each year. If your family is not connected to a synagogue, there are many communities that will welcome you to children’s (and adult) services. Visit our jkidphilly calendar to look for Rosh Hashanah services. If you need help finding a synagogue to attend for the holidays in your Kehillah, our staff at Jewish Learning venture will be happy to help you.
Wishing you all a sweet, happy, healthy New Year and I look forward to connecting with you—online or in person—very soon!


Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Blessing the Backpacks

Last week, a friend of mine sent me a link to an article in the Huffington Post religion section about a church who gathers children together for a "blessing of the backpacks" ritual. This back to school ceremony gathers children together before the start of the school year to offer them a blessing and remind them that God is with them as they start off to school.
How smart! Like many of you, I just sent off my children to school this morning. My daughter begins first grade with a new teacher and my son begins third grade in the same autism support classroom that he was in last year. Both children have grown so much physically, emotionally and cognitively since leaving school last June. The summer was rich with family time, travel, outdoor concerts, camp and time just to relax and stay up late.

For many of us parents, Labor Day weekend is an emotionally-packed time, as we address our children's anxieties about the coming school year and face our own. Will our child have a teacher who "gets" them? Will they make new friends? How will we balance homework with down time and after-school activities?
The "Blessing of the Backpack" ritual is one way to calm and center families during this transitional time and help keep this new beginning in perspective. In our Jewish tradition, we are fortunate to begin the new school year just as we begin the new year with Rosh Hashana.
Rosh Hashana, coming in just a few weeks, is an opportunity for us to enter the new year with reflection, prayer and family traditions. Over the next couple of weeks, I'll share ideas about celebrating the new year with young children.
If you and your family have special traditions to celebrate the start of school or the start of the new year, please post your comments below--thank you.
May all of our children be blessed with a fantastic school year!